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Here’s something I wrote when I was asked to speak alongside Sheila Jeffreys, who was speaking about her book “Gender Hurts”, about how transgenderism harms women. In the end, I didn’t say all this, but for those of you who are interested, here it is..

 

“For the longest of time I told no-one. It is only in the past few years that I have found the words to describe my experience. Thank you, Sheila Jeffreys, and the Radical Feminist community of bloggers for the gift of words.

 

I used to have an online friend (also a partner of a man who thought he was a woman) who likened the experience of being partnered to a transgender to the frog who is put into the pot of water and the heat gradually turned up till cooked – a deliberate programme of de-sensitisation as each limit is compromised or ignored, and…

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Castrate Rape

Over the past few years communities, and even entire states, have implemented legal protections for individuals who self-identify as “Transgender”. This umbrella term includes a variety of individuals who practice stereotypical behaviors, interests or presentation (clothes, hairstyling, accessorizing, etc.) of the biological sex opposite that of the individual’s birth.(1) The most prevalent of these are heterosexual males practicing a sexual fetish – Transvestism (crossdressing) or Autogynephilia.(2) These legal protections most frequently provide the transgender individual (heterosexual males) with unlimited access to sex-segregated facilities of the opposite sex (females – women and girls). This includes access to bathrooms, dressing rooms, locker rooms, women’s shelters, hospital wards, etc.

The argument in support of this is always that these males “feel like” women. The reality is they are not women or girls. They are men and boys.

So, women and girls are expected to simply trust men. Trust that “feeling like” a woman negates any potential for male violence. Trusting men hasn’t worked well for us over the past several centuries. And it isn’t something we should do this time, either.

Beyond “feeling like” a woman, the protection which transgender activists are quick to offer up is that these men are physically incapable of rape. That isn’t true.

Almost a third, 29% of male-born transgender, do not make any medical (hormonal) or surgical changes to their bodies.(9) These men are fully functioning males, driven by testosterone. There is nothing at all which reduces their ability, nor diminishes their desire, to have erect-penis sexual activity with women. Again, almost 1/3 of male-born transgender are testosterone loaded, penis and testicles equipped, MEN.

Of the remaining male-born transgender who do elect to have medical/surgical services, 80% of those do not have any sex reassignment surgery.(9) This represents 57% of the total male-born transgender population. They are still a physically intact male – with both testicles and penis. They are considered chemically castrated by self-administered synthetic hormone treatments – testosterone reducers and female hormones. Keep in mind that there is no state- or medical-mandated monitoring in place to ensure prescribed testosterone blockers or synthetic hormones are being taken.

Of those who do opt for some sexual surgery, which is only 14% of the total male-born population, the majority elect to have an orchidectomy, surgical removal of the testes.(9) They are surgically castrated. No testicles – they still have a penis.

25% of castrated males are fully capable of achieving and maintaining an erection after castration with no medical, no pharmaceutical, and no mechanical assistance.(3) When the male is sexually aroused, he will have an erection. This is regardless of whether the castration is chemical or surgical. Whether the castration was due to illness, accident or an elective procedure for cosmetic purposes.

An additional 65 – 70% of castrated males are capable of achieving and sustaining an erection with the use of phosphodiesterase (PDE-5) inhibitors.(4) These are common erectile dysfunction medications: Viagra, Cialis, Levitra. The same medications which are prescribed, and often provided for free, by Planned Parenthood to the transgender community.(5)

In total, 90 – 95% of castrated males are fully capable of sustaining an erection for sexual intercourse.

Men who have been chemically castrated may still produce sperm. Production often decreases, but live sperm is usually still present in semen.(6) Sperm which will still impregnate a female.

Surgically castrated men with erections are also fully capable of both having an orgasm and ejaculating. Seminal fluid is still produced by the prostate gland. The ejaculatory duct is still intact and still feeds from the prostate into the urethra of the penis. The penis still ejaculates upon orgasm. A thinner, more watery ejaculation, there’s no spermatozoa, but its still bodily fluid.

Its still life-threatening.

Multiple surveys and studies have been conducted on the high prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases among the transgender population. The San Francisco AIDS Foundation determined the Transgender Community has the highest overall HIV diagnosis rate of any group in the state of California. Almost 50% higher than the Men-having-sex-with-Men (MSM) group. SFAF estimates the prevalence rate of HIV in the male-born transgender community to be 35 – 48%.(7) A nation-wide systemic review of AIDs and HIV prevalence in 29 transgender community locations across USA indicates an infection rate as high as 68%.(8). The transgender population is 400% more likely to be HIV+ than the general population. (9)

Roughly, one third to two thirds of the male born transgender population is infected with HIV.

To summarize, 93-97% of ALL male-born transgender, including those who have been “castrated” through surgery and/or hormones still have a penis and are:

Fully capable of penetrative sexual intercourse – vaginally, orally, anally.

Fully capable of ejaculating HIV+ seminal fluid.

Fully capable of having sex with women.

Or, raping them.

REFERENCES:

(1) http://www.scottishtrans.org/guidance/transgender-umbrella/ NOTE: persons who are Intersexed or have Disorders of Sex Development are NOT transgender (see http://www.isna.org/faq/transgender)

(2) https://outofmypantiesnow.wordpress.com/2013/10/28/when-is-90-not-substantially-all/

(3) http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/7861506/

(4) http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/540086_1 and http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1397768/

(5) http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/men-4285.htm

(6) http://www.transgendercare.com/medical/resources/tmf_program/tmf_program_6.asp

(7) http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/pdf/sfaf-hiv-evidence-report-transgender-jan-2009.pdf

(8) http://www.researchgate.net/publication/6146004_Estimating_HIV_prevalence_and_risk_behaviors_of_transgender_persons_in_the_United_States_a_systematic_review/file/32bfe50e5b2828ee3e.pdf

(9) http://transequality.org/PDFs/NTDSReportonHealth_final.pdf

Living with a Transvestite

From a Guest Blogger: Her experience of living with Fetish and Autogynephilic Transvestism. Its not you, its him.

Living with a Transvestite

It is not until now, in middle age, that I am able to express how the experience of living with a transvestite man has affected me.

I was very young when we met. He was a professional musician and was quite a bit older than me. He struck me as very sophisticated and artistic and I believed he was attracted to me.

We began seeing one another seriously and we fairly quickly progressed to a sexual relationship. I fell in love and was blind to the signs that all was not right, which I can see so plainly now. Like the times when a piece of my underwear would somehow be in bed despite me having undressed before getting in to bed. Or like when some of my things began to go missing.

Sex wasn’t brilliant and he began to insist that I wear underwear in bed, especially the girly, frilly stuff. I was puzzled but not overly disturbed. Still, after he had visited me, items of my clothing would be missing.

A few weeks later he invited me to live with him. Before I answered he said he felt there was something I ought to know. He told me that he was ‘interested’ in women’s underwear. Ok, I thought, what hetero man isn’t? I didn’t realise he meant wearing it.

So I moved in with him, still largely unaware of his proclivities and sexual interests. And his violent responses if he didn’t get what he wanted.

I remember that he wanted me to have a different bedroom from him. He said that it was to do with years of living alone and the inability to sleep with anyone near him. I had my own room and found that I was not allowed into his room unless invited. We still had but it was becoming quite infrequent. I felt it odd that so soon in the relationship his sexual interest in me was waning. It was at this time it became clear to me that he was ‘borrowing’ my clothes. Not just underwear but dresses, coats, scarves…anything really. He was taking these things surreptitiously, slyly returning them the exact way he found them. Almost. I began to set little traps in an attempt to prove what he was up to.

I felt unable to confront him over what was, to me, a huge violation. I felt it was somehow a failing in me, that I wasn’t liberal or open-minded enough. I kept trying to be ok about it but it made be very uncomfortable. I began to realise why our sex life had waned, it was because in reality he would rather masturbate that do anything else.

We skirted around the elephant in the room. We travelled abroad on holidays and he would insist on ‘time alone’, which was code for him dressing up in my clothes and masturbating. I once returned to the hotel room earlier than I had planned and he became extremely angry. The angry outbursts became more frequent as I fought to have what I considered a ‘normal’ relationship. In truth, I was afraid of him.

I realised at some point that I had to leave and waited until his job took him to Europe, packed up my stuff, left a note and found a place of my own. But it would take years before the wounds healed. I was young and beautiful then and yet I felt ugly and undesirable. I felt I had failed because I couldn’t be happy with the arrangement. I felt those things for years, always suspicious of any man who seemed interested in my clothes in anyway. I deliberately wore dowdy things and stopped having any interest in my appearance. I hated fashion magazines because to him they were pornography. I hated shopping for clothes because he loved to do that, getting an erection as he looked for items of clothing that were supposedly for me, but which he would wear.

I think women are put under a lot of pressure to accept relationships like this as being evidence of an open mind. Well, this relationship was a wholly negative experience for me. Even without the violence, I would have felt the self loathing and secret shame.

My advice to anyone in a similar situation would be to listen to your instincts and to put yourself first. Any behaviour that results in you feeling bad about yourself is abusive. If you are not comfortable then get out of the relationship because he will never, ever change.

THIS is Transgender

Transgender Law and Policy Institute estimates the Transgender population at 2 – 5% of the US population. National Center for Transgender Equality reports that only 0.25 – 1.0 % of the US population are Transsexual, persons suffering from a complete psychosexual inversion who desire to transition to the opposite sex.

The remaining 80 – 88% percent of the Transgender population are here: The Transvestites, Crossdressers and Autogynephiliacs. THIS is Transgender:

TW http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=L6fzgWqvbbk&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DL6fzgWqvbbk Violated

use women’s locker rooms http://www.katu.com/news/local/132679743.html prior sex offender conviction

http://ventura.edhat.com/site/tidbit.cfm?nid=105124&nc=1

chase teenaged girls and expose themselves http://www.leicestermercury.co.uk/Hunt-flasher-stockings/story-19217295-detail/story.html

sneak into women’s locker rooms http://archive.dailycal.org/article.php?id=110753

make indecent remarks to women in public http://www.thewestmorlandgazette.co.uk/news/8705749.print/

visit strip clubs and solicit prostitutes https://www.prisonlegalnews.org/displayArticle.aspx?articleid=21570&AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1

masturbate in public http://www.worcesternews.co.uk/news/3696762.Builder_s_m_way_cross_dress_shame/?action=complain&cid=6825989

expose themselves to teenaged girls http://www.burnleyexpress.net/news/mans-indecent-exposure-left-girl-17-distraught-1-1691611

place obscene phone calls http://www.barryanddistrictnews.co.uk/news/9479339.Barry_man_jailed_after_obscene_phone_call_to_store/

Sunbathe at public beach in frilly knickers http://news.stv.tv/west-central/275564-man-wearing-nothing-but-frilly-knickers-at-sex-meeting-spot-claimed-he-was-sunbathing/

expose themselves to runners at the park http://northcote-leader.whereilive.com.au/news/story/pantyhose-wearing-man-wanted-after-indecent-exposure-in-northcote/

feel excited http://www.blairgowrieadvertiser.co.uk/blairgowrie-news/2010/02/11/blairgowrie-man-caught-wearing-women-s-knickers-113960-25797759/

go jogging in women’s underwear http://www.ripleyandheanornews.co.uk/news/local/ripley-man-in-court-on-flashing-charges-1-5495839

wear their daughters’ panties http://www.ayradvertiser.com/news/troon/articles/2011/05/28/413587-i-am-wearing-my-daughters-panties/?mode=print

attack bike messengers http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-08-12/news/chi-5-arrested-2-in-womens-clothing-after-trying-to-steal-bike-on-blue-line-20130812_1_messenger-blue-line-police-officer “aggressive and dangerous”

TW http://www.examiner.com/article/transvestite-fight-breaks-out-at-san-diego-taco-joint-video

TW http://articles.glendalenewspress.com/2012-09-14/news/tn-818-0914-man-in-skirt-accused-of-exposing-himself-to-passersby-in-glendale_1_glendale-police-reports-veronicarochala-veronica-rocha

TW http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2349852/Transsexual-serve-prison-sentence-robbery-woman-jail–despite-MAN.html

TW http://www.kmtv.com/news/local/126557148.html

TW http://cnsnews.com/news/article/naked-burglar-flees-home-then-wears-womens-underwear

TW http://www.wspa.com/story/22259212/several-men-dressed-as-women-nabbed-in-savannah-prostitution-sting

TW http://www.wmctv.com/story/22778103/possible-memphis-male-prostitutes

TW http://www.heraldnews.com/news/x606637525/People-Two-cross-dressing-prostitutes-assaulted-man-who-tried-to-rob-client

TW http://www.wtnh.com/dpp/news/crime/man-arrested-on-prostitution-charges

TW http://news.smh.com.au/breaking-news-national/act-police-seek-crossdressing-flasher-20110325-1c9rt.html

TW http://www.heraldscotland.com/sport/spl/aberdeen/cross-dressing-flasher-hunted-1.57898

TW http://www.stltoday.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/warren-county-burglar-targeted-female-neighbors-stole-panties-police-say/article_ed5bb5dd-6765-509c-adbb-9e66fb9456e8.html

TW http://www.newson6.com/global/story.asp?s=12446255

TW http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2329663/Police-officers-son-21-underwear-fetish-broke-womans-home-steal-knickers.html

TW http://crimeseekers.net/forums/showthread.php?7656-Del-Peeping-Tom-Nabbed-Wearing-Women-s-Panties

TW http://theclipstash.com/html/sto/2012/9/bra_wearing_thief___29735.shtml?cat=dumb-criminals

TW http://www.seattlepi.com/local/article/Prosecutors-Panties-helped-police-catch-Fremont-964736.php

TW http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2011/nov/23/panty-pilferer-man-fgcu-stealing-underwear/

TW http://www.news9.com/story/20626734/man-arrested-for-flashing-women-at-edmond-store

TW http://www.nola.com/crime/index.ssf/2013/03/kenner_man_who_wore_panties_wh.html

TW http://www.pressdemocrat.com/article/20080424/news/941896011

TW http://www.examiner.com/article/sex-offender-arrested-for-san-jose-burglary

TW http://www.kcrg.com/news/local/Warrant-Sex-Assault-Suspect-Had-Handcuffs-Knife-and-Womens-Underwear-in-Apartment-146287005.html

TW http://www.romenews-tribune.com/view/full_story/9170872/article-Police–Man-stole–6-worth-of-panties-by-hiding-them-in-his-pants

TW http://www.wkyc.com/news/story.aspx?storyid=27135

TW http://sports-boards.net/forums/showthread.php/46460-Police-Search-For-Man-Wearing-Black-Bra-Underwear

TW http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105×2057599

TW http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1415850/posts

TW http://jacksonville.com/tu-online/stories/111905/neR_20332537.shtml

TW http://www.news.com.au/national-news/police-hunt-bearded-man-wearing-black-bra-red-knickers/story-e6frfkvr-1225817439069?from=public_rss

TW http://www.southportvisiter.co.uk/southport-news/2007/08/17/bra-wearing-southport-man-jailed-for-indecent-exposures-101022-19648041/

TW http://mdjonline.com/view/full_story/22654265/article-Police–Man-wearing-dress-in-dumpster-faces-drug-charges?mobile_view=false

TW http://www.wiscassetnewspaper.com/article/police-blotter/18956

TW http://www.statesman.com/news/news/crime-law/police-man-tried-to-sexually-assault-woman-at-nort/nY9Cg/

TW http://www.wearecentralpa.com/story/police-look-for-cross-dressing-criminal/d/story/rbdrDORHd02DGE7pF_9shg

TW http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2013-08-16/how-london-cops-used-low-tech-version-of-predictive-policing.html

TW http://www.thisisbristol.co.uk/Pervert-pleads-guilty-sex-attacks-women/story-19612906-detail/story.html#axzz2cDQKa6Qr

TW http://www.uppermichiganssource.com/news/story.aspx?list=194550&id=932830#.Ug9DWsu9KSM

TW http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/psychiatrist-outs-her-paedo-patient-2078883

TW http://www.appeal-democrat.com/articles/county-126968-yuba-sydow.html

TW http://perezhilton.com/cocoperez/2011-04-19-english-man-poses-as-mannequin-in-womens-restroom-to-take-pictures

TW http://temecula.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/man-accused-of-raping-child-wearing-her-underwear

TW Have sex in the park http://www.wtsp.com/news/local/story.aspx?storyid=280847

TW Stalk children, send sexually explicit images and texts http://www.thv11.com/news/article/276769/2/Police-arrest-cross-dresser-who-was-waiting-on-meeting-with-14-year-old

TW expose themselves at Wally World http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=y5ea03zwabk&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dy5ea03zwabk

TW http://www.universalhub.com/crime/police-dress-wearing-man-felt-need-show-people-hed.html

TW http://www.pennlive.com/midstate/index.ssf/2012/08/meet_zorro_harrisburg_robber_c.html#incart_river_default

TW http://m.wpbf.com/Police-Man-in-women-s-clothes-leads-officers-on-chase/-/17441378/18035772/-/8u7u1o/-/index.html and http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2013/jan/07/riviera-beach-police-chase-vehicle-martin-county-c/

TW http://www.khou.com/news/Caught-on-camera-Naked-man-breaks-into-Goodwill-dons-red-dress-and-heels-147165525.html

TW http://www.abc4.com/content/news/top_stories/story/Dress-wearing-suspect-taken-into-custody-after/oFKIPbOWakWnTd4_iNLvvg.cspx

TW http://www.ocala.com/article/20111108/ARTICLES/111109711

TW http://www.clickorlando.com/news/Police-Cross-dressing-fake-nurse-targeting-elderly/-/1637132/16995996/-/tvcqc2/-/index.html

TW http://www.cnn.com/2010/TRAVEL/10/07/hyatt.crossdresser.lawsuit/index.html

TW http://www.calgaryherald.com/news/vancouver/Crossdressing+groper+sought+Kelowna+RCMP+after+several/8402082/story.html

TW http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=L6fzgWqvbbk&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DL6fzgWqvbbk Violated

TW http://www.thealbatross.ca/26843/montreal-clothesline-underwear-thief

TW http://www.portorchardindependent.com/news/19833319.html

TW http://www.knoxnews.com/news/2009/may/27/lingerie-wearing-suspect-charged-anderson-co-burgl/

TW http://www.kens5.com/news/Dangerous-SA-arson-suspect-creates-destruction-in-nighty-112095844.html

TW http://www.911jobforums.com/f66/police-searching-man-wearing-lingerie-who-dragged-police-officer-45190/

TW http://www.freenewspos.com/news/article/c/112350/today/jason-kies-of-la-crescenta-charged-with-two-attempted-kidnappings-of-women-in-san-fernando-valley

TW http://qctimes.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/tattoo-helps-identify-suspect-in-lingerie-store-break-in/article_fca67cfc-7e03-11e2-83cd-0019bb2963f4.html

TW http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/11/26/brianna.denison.arrest/

TW http://www.foxcarolina.com/story/20047565/deputies-lingerie-clad-man-flashes-women-at-post-offices

TW http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/thunder-bay/story/2013/01/14/tby-child-porn-charges-thunder-bay-chile-care-worker.html

TW http://www.abc4.com/content/news/top_stories/story/Neighbors-nab-cross-dresser/XY2en0Ctnk-cih9g1iBhgA.cspx

TW http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Regional/2013/03/16/Malaysian-fined-for-damaging-lingerie.aspx

TW http://newsok.com/oklahoma-city-suspect-charged-in-child-porn-case/article/3393637

TW http://blog.cleveland.com/parmasunpost/2009/07/man_wearing_lingerie_facing_ch.html

TW http://www.ktvq.com/news/belgrade-man-accused-of-exposing-himself-while-wearing-womens-clothing/

TW http://www.just-style.com/news/lewd-photos-found-in-womens-lingerie-boxes_id81111.aspx

TW http://www.fearnotlaw.com/articles/article18934.html

TW grope women in public http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/scottishnews/4865144/Crossdresser-given-shops-ban-over-Perth-grope-rap.html

TW enjoy being frisked by TSA at airports http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=091_1372962838&comments=1&safe_mode=off

TW molest children at knifepoint http://www.kget.com/mostpopular/story/Transgender-accused-of-three-Bakersfield/Atl1nctBSk28KmmtwFOxFQ.cspx

TW expose themselves to teenagers at the mall http://www.thesunchronicle.com/news/man-wearing-dress-arrested-at-north-mall/article_4676e136-457e-5054-9827-a1d63948ee28.html

TW commit lewd acts on children under their supervision http://blogs.ocweekly.com/navelgazing/2013/07/christian_school_daycare_sex_c.php

TW Steal and wear children’s underwear http://www.ktvb.com/news/local/64234627.html?unconfirmed=1

TW sexually molest children http://www.reviewonline.com/page/content.detail/id/568264/Crossdressing-molester-to-spend-at-least-15-years-in-prison.html?nav=5188

TW commit lewd acts in stolen knickers http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2603678/Town-Mayor-is-quizzed-by-cops-in-missing-underwear-probe.html

TW masturbate in department store bathrooms http://www.wave3.com/story/22939874/man-accused-of-performing-lewd-act-in-public-stealing-bikes

TW break-in and commit lewd acts http://www.mercurynews.com/ci_11545514?source=rss

TW Molest children http://www.courts.ca.gov/opinions/nonpub/B235608.DOC

TW sexually accost strangers http://m.salemnews.com/TSN/pm_104190/contentdetail.htm?contentguid=sPNcsThr

TW are voyeuristic http://articles.baltimoresun.com/2011-02-05/news/bs-md-ar-peeping-tom-arrest-20110205_1_videos-crofton-man-underwear

TW flash hotel visitors http://geneva.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/man-wearing-bra-and-panties-sought-for-public-indecency-at-hotel

TW expose themselves in public http://5newsonline.com/2013/08/06/man-arrested-wearing-bra-thong-at-fayettevlle-park/

TW Transgender on-off switch
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/guy_again_eKq3Jw6LjgsjpBdmZklrtM

TW http://www.yorkpress.co.uk/news/3679213.Lingerie_man_not_guilty_of_intentional_exposure/

TW http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2397843/Transgender-Monique-Allen-left-disabled-plastic-surgery-addiction-warns-women-dangers-quick-fixes-backstreet-doctors.html

TW http://reviewonline.com/page/content.detail/id/568264/Crossdressing-molester-to-spend-at-least-15-years-in-prison.html

TW http://www.asylum.com/2008/08/20/bikini-barista-scalds-man-in-womens-underwear/

See also the previous 100+ Crossdresser and Transvestite (Transgdender) sex crimes https://outofmypantiesnow.wordpress.com/2013/07/09/they-are-out-there/

Where is YOUR Husband Tonight?

Maybe he’s in a “club equipped with hot tubs, a “gang bang area,” a dungeon, and private rooms.” After all, it is Thursday night tonight.

http://www.pqmonthly.com/tranny-thursdays-debate-exposes-culture-divide/16232

I love the irony of those interviewed who are so put off by the sexual tone of the event. The entire transgender spectrum is about sex: starting with panty fetish, then compulsive crossdressing for masturbation, followed by autogynephilic obsession with the fantasy of being seen as a sexually attractive woman and finally ending with delusions of gender and transitioning into a man-made “woman”, lusting for sex with their romantic (non-existent) knights in shining armor.

Sex. It’s all about sex.

No… That’s not the Right Word, Either

I didn’t say the right thing. I could see that. He had been watching me so intently, his mouth curved in a slight smile that I didn’t recognize. His head forward, face down a little, tilted, as if he was presenting his cheekbone to me. Looking, up, almost, at me from the corners of his eyes. His eyes.

It was a very generous gift, I said so. And added, with a smile of pride, enamored, that he had very good boyfriend skills. Imagine me, my smile said, with such a fine catch as you!

It wasn’t the right thing.

I made mental notes, and the next time I touched on how well his mother had reared him, to give such thoughtful and unique gifts. They were just perfect. Because, they were. And he knew it, his eyes glowed as he watched me unwrap.

But, it wasn’t his mother. That wasn’t the right thing. That, very much, was not the right thing, said the involuntary tightening at the corners of his lips. The deadening of his eyes.

On the next occasion, I could tell by the way his eyes roamed over the gifts, almost caressing them, that a great deal of thought had gone into his selections. That he had thought deeply of me, of what I wanted most, when he made his purchases. I complimented his memory and attention to detail. Both very compliment-worthy attributes, but no, not the right things. Not the right words.

As a class, the word is appropriation. Those males, tired of their self-compliance to gender socialization, who decide it must be easier to be a woman. Who decide they can be better women than they were men. They re-define and re-word and re-create and re-claim. They appropriate.

As an individual, the word is inhabitation. He doesn’t want to be like me. He wants to be me. He wants to occupy me, my life, who I am.

Those gifts, they were never for me. They were for him. For his inhabitation of me.

“You Never Really Loved Me”

He’s right. I didn’t. I never really loved him.

I loved someone, though, very deeply. I trusted that someone. I loved someone and I loved being loved by someone. I showered someone with my attention and affection. With my charm, warm looks, intelligent conversation and hot sex. But that wasn’t him, it was someone else.

I tried, though. There was a period of 5-8 weeks when I tried so hard to love him. A period where I knew him and I wanted desperately to love him, because I had once loved someone so much and I did not want to lose that.

But that was someone else.

I knew someone else. I loved someone else. I didn’t love him. I didn’t know him.

And once I knew him, I could never love him.

Response to ‘D’

Over the weekend I received a series of lengthy comments from ‘D’. They were mostly repetitive in nature and included large quotes from material I previously posted in https://outofmypantiesnow.wordpress.com/2013/07/09/they-are-out-there/ , a post dealing with sexual criminal behavior by crossdressers. In lieu of releasing the full comments (long, repetitive) I will be posting a general response to the overall points raised by ‘D’:

I agree, if I had not limited my online searches to crossdressers/transvestites, I would have certainly found either more than 100+ crimes in 2 hours or I would have found 100 in significantly less time. Crossdressers represent a small percentage of the overall population, 2-2.5%, so obviously there will be a lower number of sex crimes than the general male population.

You are right, crossdressing does not automatically lead to criminal sexual behavior, as defined by current laws. There is, however, both proven correlation and causation. Psychological material consistently reports the high incident of co-existing secondary parapillias of voyuerism, exhibitionism, advanced stage (sociopathic) narcissism and BSDM with both consensual and non-consensual partners. The same material also notes the need, on the part of the diagnosed, to escalate to higher and higher risk activity in order to satisfy their compulsions. This risk taking behavior is what leads to criminal sexual behavior. Psychological material also describes how repetitive practice of compulsive behavior reduces self-awareness of the antisocial aspects of the behavior, making it increasingly likely that the crossdresser will fail to see any harm in his escalating behavior and increasing his risk taking. Along the lines of the Internet porn addict justifying his behavior with “everybody does it” as he advances from cleavage shots to penetrative sex to BSDM acting to footage of actual rape.

The correlation of crossdressing with criminal sexual behavior is similar to that of an Internet search ‘accountant+malfeasance+financial fraud+charitable organizational bankruptcy’. The person in the best position to steal money from a charitable institution is the accountant who does all the bookkeeeping with little, if any, knowledgeable oversight. There is an inherent risk, so there is a natural correlation. Crossdressers are practicing a sexual arousal based compulsion which escalates over time. It will get worse, in one way or another.

Every crossdresser IS a pervert, that is the definition of paraphillias. I am not suggesting we take them out and hang them, I am acknowledging that they have a psychological disorder which needs support and treatment. I don’t support turning your back on someone in need when they are working to change. If you are eager to stop crossdressing and are willing to do the work needed to overcome this disorder, I applaud your wife and family for supporting your efforts.

The point I was making with my earlier post is not that sexual crimes are committed by people in general, but rather that some crossdressers DO escalate into sexually criminal behavior. Furthermore, that opening public accommodations specifically segregated for females to males, on the basis their their self-identification as “women”, will increase the prevalence of this sexually criminal behavior, from both crossdresser escalation as well as other sexual predators who will choose to use this loophole to further their agendas.

Crossdressers aren’t born, they create themselves, through repetitive practice of dopamine-reward behavior. People are born. Their biological sex is either female or male, and in the extremely rare occurrence, intersexed. Your birth sex is one of the previous. Gender is a socialization process. No one, regardless of their birth sex, is born with pre-evolved social stereotypes.

Your desire to be a feminine male is perfectly fine with me. You should feel free to wear all the pink g-strings, purple thongs and sheer lace that International Jock sells. You are welcome to wear pink striped seersucker suits in the summer and brilliant royal blue v-neck sweaters in the winter. Carry a murse. Throw on a colorful scarf. Slip into some red, sour apple green or aqua blue shoes http://www.wwd.com/footwear-news/fashion/mens-must-buy-bright-saddle-shoes-6325288 .

Your choice to insult me by caricaturing hyper-femininity and claiming that it makes you feel like a woman in not acceptable. It is blatant, sexist discrimination. It’s ridicule and misogyny. And the fact that you don’t see how this behavior insults and demeans women is exactly why it should be classified as a hate crime.

I know plenty of “men who are attentive, loyal, loving, caring, respectful, honest, etc.” They managed to develop these attributes without sexualizing women, that you cannot is the reason your behavior is classified as a psychological disorder.

I don’t care how much pain or distress my husband may have experienced during his life due to this disorder. Nor do I need to learn any more about Transvestism. The facts of this disease have not changed in a century and all contemporary research continues to support the sexual origins. My husband is a highly intelligent, well educated man with both the financial resources and social awareness to have addressed this before he ever met me. He chose not to change, but to continue to indulge himself.

He’s a pervert who insults women. I have self respect. GAME OVER